im 56 and a mother of 7,married and with the same man for 22 years.
my second husband was diagnosed in june of 85 but werent sure if he had aids ,black lung(bread maker) or the tumor in his brain.so with that they put on his death cert. that he died of natural causes i had a daugther with him who is today 23 and negitive.i was tested twice a year for 6 years and all were negitive.i was told after all these years that i was good to have a relationship so i got married in 2003 and still neg.in june 2005 i got very sick and was hospitalized, bacterial meningitis,endocardious,stroke,etc
1)i had 3 mini strokes 2)i blew out the left ventrical of my heart 3)bacterial menigitis 4) unrinary track infection so bad that it grew sominella . was in the hospital for 10 days and when i left i couldnt walk , had sever pain.was put on anti viral meds ,pain med,intravenous antibiotics,and ativan.
7 months later in marchof 06 in got large hodgkins lympoma.went into kemo for a year.went from 230 lbs to 159 lbs.they really didnt think id make it through kemo but i did...im a very stubburn cuss...i take after my dad...lol
here i am 2 years after kemo weighing in at 218 and doing good with a few minor infractions.
i see my oncologist every 4 months and my hiv dr every 3 months with blood work in between.
only thing that sucks is my husband of 20 yrs now has it,but im very lucky to have himhes doing real good with 650/50