I have been caretaker and not by choice to my ex-husband as well as poer of attorney ... He had a stroke 09/23/2011 while I was here visiting and was able to bring him back to life... He was never very nice or had a kind word to say just complained about what was "wrong" with everyone to include me .. He refused home treatment after about 4 weeks .. I took him to my neurologist and he does have narrowing of arteries which prohibits him from remembering , he has a form of dyslexia and his angry side has only gotten worse over time ..
I also found out i am peri-menopausal .. I am tired and about ready to seek therapy for myself as well as relieve myself of POA .. I am scared for him but this weird loyalty I have has to end .. I will seek counsel and get the Neuro to write a full detailed letter that he is heading down the path of dementia and that he already has "sundowners" , all of which was explained to him..
So it has been hard , big deal, but I have to get my life back in order and start to feel better .. My pain is all the time .. My feeling tired is worse even though I do take at least an hour or two to rest and sometime sleep in the day just to catch up on the restless painful numbing and burning nights ..
One last thing , I have issue of course to my right side BUT my left side is just as bad .. Thanks